"   When you have sex with someone new, and it starts as fast and easy as lighting a match, it usually burns out just as fast. But when you take the time to build the connection the way you would a campfire — with lots of kindling, noticing which way the wind is blowing, stoking it until it gives off roaring flames now and then, adding fuel when it starts dying out — you have something that can keep you warm for as long as you’re willing to tend to it.   "